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Glossary Of Sex, Escorting, Swinging, and Internet Dating Terms
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A
24/7 - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week master/mistress-slave relationship.
A/S/L - Age / Sex / Location
ABSTINENCE - To refrain from having sex
AC/DC - Meaning an individual who is bi-sexual.
ACK SHACK - Establishment where girls provide private dances to customers. Usually the customer is told they may pleasure themselves. Do not expect HJ or F/S as these locations
ACTIVE - The aggressive sexual partner
ADULTERY - Sex between a married person and a person other than their spouse
ALL CULTURES - All fetishes and sexual activities.
AMBISEXUAL - Bisexual. Enjoying sexual encounters with both sexes
ANALINGUS - Kissing, licking and penetration of the anus by the tongue
ANGEL - Male who pays for sexual acts
ANUS - The opening of the rectum
AREOLA - The ring of darkened skin around the nipple of the breast
AROUND THE WORLD - The act of kissing the entire body as a prelude to sex
ASIAN - Oral sex on the anus. Rimming / Analingus
ASS - The buttocks
ASSHOLE - The anus
ATYPICAL SEXUAL BEHAVIOR - Sexual activity that is not one of the more common activities
AUNTIE - An aging male homosexual
AUTO-EROTICISM - Masturbation
AUTO-FELLATIO - Performing fellatio on ones own penis
AUTO-SADISM - An act whereby one inflicts pain on oneself
AXILIARY INTERCOURSE - Sexual climax achieved by moving the erect penis back and forth in the armpit
AXILLARY HAIR - Armpit hair
B
B & D - This stands for bondage and discipline.
B/F - Bi Female.
BAACHARU DEITO - A type of Japanese fetish film shot from the point of view of the boyfriend. The couple goes on a date, which ends in sex.
BACK DOOR - This is slang commonly used by swinger for anal sex.
BACK SCUTTLE - Perform anal intercourse
BACK YARD - The buttocks
BACULUM - Male walruses have an extra bone to help support copulation. It's called a baculum. Human males don't have one, but the human penis is longer than many of us are. The penis doesn't end when it disappears under the pubic bone. You just don't see the part that extends under the scrotum and splits into a Y. The branches of this Y attach to the pair of bones that join the pubic bone and the bone at the base of the buttocks. The penis is thus anchored so that it can follow the movements of the pelvis during intercourse.
BAG - The scrotum
BALLS - The testicles
BANANA - The penis
BARE-ASSED - Nude
BARTHOLIN'S GLANDS - Two tiny ducts located on either side of the vaginal entrance. They secret a small amount of fluid during sexual arousal, their exact purpose is unclear.
BASKET - The bulge made by male sex organs in jeans, briefs & trunks
BASKET SHOPPING - Observing the male genitalia through clothing
BBBJ - Bare back blow job , no condom
BBW - Big Busty Woman, or Big Beautiful Woman.
BD - Sometimes B/D, B&D. Bondage and Discipline. Sometimes used interchangeably with SM but more strictly referring to practices involving bondage and role-playing or humiliation but little or no pain. Sometimes thought to stand for Bondage and Domination.
BDSM - Bondage, discipline, sadomasochism. Sometimes BD/SM. Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. Catch-all term much used to lump together those perves who play with physical pain and those who don't, reflecting a concern that the term SM, with its associations with pain, is not always appropriate.
BEAT OFF - Masturbation
BEEFCAKE - Male possessing sex appeal
BENT STICK - A penis that is not erect
BI - An individual who enjoys both heterosexual and homosexual activities
BI CURIOUS - Willing to experiment with a member of the same sex.
BI-SEXUAL - One enjoys both sexes
BITCH - A loose woman or feminine male
BJ - Blow Job
BLIND - An uncircumcised penis
BLOW - To perform oral intercourse
BLOW JOB - The act of oral intercourse on a male
BLUE MOVIES - Porno movies
BONDAGE - When an individual is sexually aroused when being restrained or is subject to corrective treatment by another. (B & D) Restriction of a person's bodily movement for erotic reasons using fastenings of various kinds.
BONER An erection
BONKERS - Female breasts
BOOBS - Female breasts
BOTTOM - Submissive partner. Submissive or recipient of stimulation in an SM scene.
BOTTOM OR SUBMISSION - The complimentary term for the bottom is submission, and someone bottoming to a dominant is called a submissive or sub, but the term subby is sometimes heard. The terms 'dom' and 'sub' to describe individuals have slightly more currency in the heterosexual scene than among gay men and lesbians, where the terms 'top' and 'bottom' are more common. Femdom, meaning a female dominant or a scene with a woman top, and its equivalent maledom, are invariably used to refer to heterosexual interaction. The overarching term for games involving domination is domination and submission (dom-sub, DS, D/S, D/s or D&S).
BRING OFF - Ejaculation in the male
BROTHEL - A house of prostitution
BUMMER - Active partner in anal sex
BUNS - The buttocks
BUTCH - A lesbian who dresses and acts in a very masculine manner
C
CALL GIRL - A prostitute who works outcall from a home or office
CAN ENTERTAIN - Will swing in their own home.
CAN TRAVEL - Will swing in your home.
CANDY MAKER - A woman or man who masturbates a male and then consumes the ejaculated semen
CARPOPEDAL SPASM - Contractions of the hands or feet occurring during orgasm
CASTRATION - Render the testicles inoperable by surgery
CBJ - "Covered Blow Job" Oral sex with a condom
CBT - Causing sensation, discomfort and pain to the male testicles, and penis often including the scrotum as well.
CELIBATE - Someone who does not engage in sexual activity
CERVICAL CAP - A small rubber contraceptive barrier that fits over the cervix. smaller than a diaphragm and is held in place by suction
CERVIX - The tapered lower end of the uterus that opens into the vagina
CHASTE - To engage in the most ordinary sexual activities
CHASTITY - Sexual abstinence
CHEAT - To be unfaithful to one's regular sex partner
CHEEKS - Fleshy portions of buttocks
CHERRY - One who is still a virgin or slang for the hymen
CHUCKHOLD - A man whose wife deceives him by having a sexual relationship with another man.
CIM - Come in mouth
CIRCLE JERK - Male group masturbation
CIRCUMCISION - Surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis
CLIMAX - To achieve the high point of sexual activity. often refers to ejaculation by the male
CLIT - The clitoris
CLITORAL HOOD - The fold of skin covering the clitoris
CLITORIS - Get ready for a surprise! If you're a woman, you've got more genitalia than most books say you do. Located between the upper reaches of the labia, the little bulb we call a clitoris is only the tip of a system of erectile tissue that includes the famed G-spot, too. In fact, the extended clitoris has 18 parts, including a shaft, hood, glands, and two "crura" or legs, all of which make up the corpora cavernosa. If these terms sound familiar, it's because they're also the names of parts of the penis that function similarly. The corpora cavernosa in females engorges with blood during arousal just as the penis does.
CLOSED SWINGING - This is where partner swap, but have sexual intercourse in separate rooms.
CLOSET QUEEN - A male homosexual who hides his desires for other men
COCK - The penis
COCKSUCKER - One who performs oral intercourse on the penis
COCKTEASER - One who excites a male without carrying on to actual sexual relations
COITUS - Sexual intercourse
COITUS IN ANO - Anal intercourse
COITUS INTERRUPTUS - Withdrawal of the penis prior to ejaculation
COLD - Unresponsive to sexual relations
COME - To achieve sexual orgasm
CONDOM - Rubber sheath worn on the penis
CONTINENCE - To refrain from sexual activity
CONTRACEPTION - The prevention of contraception the use of birth control devices or agents
CONTRACEPTIVE FILM - Small square of spermicide inserted into the vagina to help protect against pregnancy
CONTRACEPTIVE FOAM - A spermicidal foam that is inserted into the vagina with an applicator prior to intercourse where it helps protect against pregnancy
COPULATION - Vaginal intercourse
CORNHOLE - Anal intercourse
CORONA - Rim of flesh which forms the base of the head of penis
CORPORA CAVERNOSA - The spongy erectile tissue in both male and female genitalia that becomes engorged with blood during sexual arousal
CORPORAL PUNISHMENT - Originally, retributive punishment involving the infliction of pain, often though not exclusively through blows administered with some form of flexible object like a whip or cane. In an SM context, normally refers to the activities of caning, whipping and spanking. Usually during some form of role-playing in which the bottom is 'punished', especially recreations of 'real-life'.
CORPUS SPONGIOSUM - A column of erectile tissue that runs the length of the penis and encloses the urethra
COW GIRL - Girl on top
CREAMPIE - The sexual fluids left in a woman when a man or several men have ejaculated inside her vagina.
CROSS-DRESSING - Wearing clothes of the opposite sex
CROTCH - Juncture of the thighs with the body; the genitals area
CRUISE - The hunt for a sex partner
CUM - Semen
CUNNILINGUS - To kiss, lick or suck the female sex organs.
CUNT - The vagina
D
D/F - Dominant Female.
D/M - Dominant Male.
DAISY CHAIN - A group sex activity in which there is a linking of several people by oral connections
DDF - Disease and Drug Free.
DEEP THROAT - Oral sex in which the male's partner is able to overcome their gag reflex and take the penis deeply into their mouth and sometimes down their throat
DERRIERE - The buttocks
DETUMESCENE - The return of an erect penis to its flaccid state
DEVIANT SEXUAL BEHAVIOR - Sexual behavior that diverges from the norm
DFK - "Deep French Kissing" Kissing with intense and deep tongue contact
DIAPHRAGM - A saucer shaped rubber contraceptive device that is filled with spermicide and inserted into the vagina to block the cervical opening
DICK - The penis
DIDDLE - To perform masturbation
DILDO - A device used for sexual stimulation by inserting into the vagina or anus often in the shape of a phallus
DISCIPLINE - Disciplinary actions which arouse sexual desires, from mild to painful spankings. Like many SM terms, used rather loosely, but usually refers to the imposition of rules of behaviour on the bottom in domination scenes and the 'punishments' used to enforce them. A distinction is often made between intense and painful activities that are carried out so the bottom gets direct enjoyment from them and those carried out as a 'punishment' for infraction where in certain kinds of ongoing relationships the bottom does not determine the limits of the activity. A bottom seeking 'discipline' would normally expect their behaviour to be carefully controlled and that there will be regular opportunities for some form of physical punishment, even if mild, for infractions. When used with 'bondage' in bondage and discipline, (BD, B&D), as distinct from SM, there is a definite implication that little or no real pain is involved.
DOGGIE STYLE - Sexual position used by k9's. Sex with man entering women vaginally from the rear.
DOMINANCE (D ) - The practice of taking the dominant role in a scene, running the scene, controlling the bottom's behaviour, perhaps simply as role play or humiliation or perhaps reinforced by the more physical aspects or the actual use of intense or painful physical activities directed at the bottom, and/or by restriction, bondage and physical control. However do remember pain isn't always associated with dominance and may never be used. A person who takes on this sexually dominant role, either habitually or for a specific scene, is known as a dominant or dom.
DOMINATION AND SUBMISSION (D & S) - Sexual pleasure derived from acting out fantasies in which person dominates and one submits
DOMINATRIX - In bondage and discipline, a woman who specializes in dominating and disciplining a partner. The Latin feminine of the term 'dominator', one who dominates, could just mean a woman who enjoys taking the dominant role but almost always refers specifically to the professional dominatrix who has sessions or scenes where she dominates mainly male clients. But not always. The work of these women is legal and isn't considered to be prostitution because very often genital sex is not involved. Some dominatrix are renowned for their knowledge and skill at both the psychological and physical aspects of SM techniques and a number have made valuable contributions to the BDSM community.
DONG - The penis
DP - This stands for double penetration.
DRAG QUEEN - Male who dresses in female clothing
DRIVE IT HOME - Forceful intercourse
DRY FUCK - Moving against one another, clothed to simulate intercourse (dry hump)
DUNGEON - Melodramatic term for a playroom, a room specially equipped for BDSM, perhaps of the heavier or more leathery variety. Equipment with special equipment for play. Such as St. Andrew's Cross, Spanking Benches, Torture Stands, Kneeling Benches, Chains, Swings, Stocks / Pillories, Yokes, Suspension Rack, Vault Horse, The Back Rack, The Kneeler Table, Massage Table, Catherine Wheel and many other items..
E
EASY - A person who needs little persuasion to perform sex acts
EAT - To perform oral sex
EFFEMINATE - Descriptive of a male who acts in a feminine manner
EJACULATE - Discharge from the penis during sexual climax
ENEMA - To introduce a liquid such as water into the rectum often used ad punishment in S&M or for pleasure
ENGLISH - Sadism and masochism
EROS - The Greek's term for passionate or erotic love
EROTIC AID - Any device used to enhance sexual responsiveness. e.g. vibrator or dildo
EROTICA - Sexual material that is not considered pornographic to the viewer
EUNUCH - A male who has had his testicles and/or penis removed
EXH - Exhibitionism.
EXHIBITIONIST - A person who derives sexual gratification by displaying his body to others
F
FAMILY JEWELS - The testicles
FANNY - The buttocks
FELLATIO - To take a penis into the mouth to suck & lick it for sexual arousal.
FEMME - A feminine acting lesbian
FETISH - Any object or part of the body which is normally considered non-sexual but which arouses erotic feelings such as leather, rubber, feet, balloons, panties, etc.
FFFF - A foursome involving four females.
FIFTH WHEEL - A heterosexual in a homosexual group
FISTING - To place the hand into a vagina or rectum
FOREPLAY - Foreplay is any erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse. It's usually thought of as all the sweet seductions close to or in the bed: kissing, hugging, licking, touching, teasing, but it can occur while fully dressed, setting the scene hours (or even days) before the planned lovemaking. The key to effective foreplay is that it be thoughtful, personal, and caring.
FRENCH - Oral sex.
FULL BODY MASSAGE - Sensual massage over all parts of the body. One would expect a hand job with this service
G
G/S - Golden Shower.
GANG BANG - Group sex where one is fucked consecutively by many
GET IT UP - To achieve an erect penis
GET SOME - To attain sexual intercourse with someone
GET YOUR ROCKS OFF - To ejaculate
GFE - "Girlfriend Experience" Service that provides the fantasy of a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. Usually involves close intimate contact including but not limited to kissing and cuddling.
GIVE HEAD - To perform oral intercourse
GLORY HOLE - An opening cut into the partition between two commode stalls in a men's restroom through which oral intercourse can be performed
GO DOWN ON - To perform oral intercourse
GOLDEN SHOWER - One person urinates on another for sexual pleasure
GOOSE - Press a finger into the cleavage of the buttocks
GREEK - A slang word used for anal intercourse.
GROPE - To handle another's genitals
G-SPOT - A debate about the existence and importance of the G-spot has been going on for many years. Now a gynecologist in Malaysia says he's identified two more spots within the vagina that have functions in sexual arousal, the A-spot and the U-spot. Named for Ernst Graffenberg, the German scientist credited with its discovery, the G-spot is thought to be a mound of tissue on the front upper wall of the vagina that fills with blood during arousal.
G-STRING - A small brief worn over the genitals, with only a small amount of fabric on the backside.
H
HAIRCUT FETISH - An odd type of Japanese fetish film of women getting their hair cut, usually just normal haircuts.
HAND JOB (HJ) - Masturbation, particularly at the hands of another
HAND MADE - A large penis allegedly developed through masturbation
HARD ON - An erect penis
HARD UP - Lack of sexual activity and need for a sex partner
HEDONIST - One who lives for pleasure.
HETROSEXUAL - One who desires sex only with the opposite sex
HOMOSEXUAL - One who desires sex only with the same sex
HORNY - Sexually aroused; passionate
HORSE AROUND - To explore sexually without engaging in intercourse
HOT PANTS - Sexually aroused
HUNG - To describe the size of a large penis
HUSTLER - Prostitute that searches for customers
I
IMPOTENT - Unable to engage in sexual intercourse
INCALL - Service where you go to the providers location
INCEST - Sexual relations between family member
INDOOR SPORTS - Swinging activities in general.
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP - They want more than just sex. They would like a relationship that is deeper than just a sexual encounter.
ISO - In Search Of...
J
JACK OFF - To masturbate
JAIL BAIT - One who is under the age of legal consent
JERK OFF - To masturbate
JOHN - One who financially supports another for sexual favors
JOINT - The penis
K
KICKS - Sexual thrill
KNOCK OF A PIECE - To have sexual intercourse
L
LABIA - Folds of erectile tissue that together make the vulva and guard the entrance to the urethra and vagina.
LACE CURTAINS - The foreskin of the penis
LAVENDER - Pertaining to the homosexual lifestyle
LAY - To perform sexual intercourse
LEG STRETCHER - Restraint designed to force the legs apart.
LESBIAN - A female homosexual
LIBIDO - It's a biological fact that in both sexes, the sex drive is powered by the hormone testosterone. But emotions and attitudes will always be stronger than any hormone. Create a positive attitude toward your own sexual pleasure, and you'll have the most important engine of the sex drive working in your favor.
LIFESTYLE - Generally refers to those who choose swinging as a "lifestyle".
LIMIT - The point beyond which a player in a BDSM game does not consent to go. Can either indicate a particular activity that someone cannot cope with or finds a turnoff, or a point reached in play at which the stimulation ceases to be enjoyable or satisfying, or becomes impossible to cope with psychologically. Obviously the limits will vary between person to person and situation to situation. Note that although limits are usually thought of in connection with bottoms, they are also applicable to tops
LINK LIST - A link list is a website, which has links to many adult websites.
LOAD - The fluid from an ejaculation
M
M - A potentially confusing abbreviation. In SM it stands for masochism and so may indicate a masochist. But it can also stand for the opposite role in the opposition of master or mistress and slave. When used for masochist it may be written m in lower case; when used for master or mistress it is almost always written in upper case. Thankfully the sense is usually clear from the context.
M.I.L.F. - Mother I'd Like to Fuck. A sexually attractive middle-aged woman.
MAKE OUT - To succeed sexually
MAKE-OUT SLUT - A woman who tends to kiss many men but rarely (or never) has sexual intercourse.
MARY - An effeminate-acting male
MASOCHISM - MASOCHIST - The sexual desire to receive pain or to be humiliated. In BDSM circles, the propensity to enjoy undergoing experiences normally thought of as painful, and one who enjoys such experiences.
MASTER - Female equivalent: mistress. Dominant, controlling partner or top in a relationship based on sexual domination and submission (DS), where the submissive partner is known as the slave. Such relationships are known as master/mistress-slave relationships, abbreviated to M/s, M-s or MS. Both terms were formerly used more generally to cover a variety of different BDSM styles but as the community begins to disentangle DS from the enjoyment of pain, they are gradually becoming specialized to situations where the DS element is particularly essential or marked and/or where it perhaps extends into everyday life, as when the slave carries out domestic tasks for the master/mistress or adopts formalized rules of address and other rules of behavior. There are even cases of 'full-time' or 24/7 (24 hours a day, seven days a week) MS relationships, where the slave has perhaps signed a contract and considers him/herself owned as 'property'.
MASTURBATION - Giving oneself sexual pleasure, especially using the hand to stimulate the genitals, and often resulting in orgasm.
MASTURBATORY - Relating to or similar to masturbation.
MASTURBILIA - Something used during masturbation, like a picture, article of clothing, or other object, that reminds the person masturbating of someone they are fantasizing about. Derived from combining "masturbation" and "memorabilia".
MATINEE - A sex session in the afternoon
MEAT - The penis
MEET FOR PLEASURE - Meet for swinging sex. No pretense to a social or emotional situation.
MEET N GREET - Basically, a "meet and greet" is just getting together in person for the first time. It usually happens in a public place (for safety reasons) and sometimes includes having dinner or a drink. "Get to know each other" talk to make sure no one is lying about who they are (happens often on Swinger sites) and see if we want to take things any further.
MENAGE A TROIS - When three people have sex together at once. A threesome.
MISSIONARY POSITION - The "traditional" sexual position in the West, where the woman lies on her back with her legs spread and the man mounts her with his arms supporting his weight.
MISTRESS - A dominant woman in a BDSM relationship; a dominatrix.
MONEY SHOT - The climactic scene in a porn film when the man ejaculates, usually onto the woman's body or face; a cum shot.
MUD FLAP - A name for the foreskin on a male penis that likes to travel the anal highway
MULTIORGASMIC - Prone to having multiple orgasms.
MULTIPLE ORGASM - Also multiple climax - Having more than one orgasm in a single sex session, especially in rapid succession. Usually experienced by women.
MUMMIFICATION - A specialized kind of bondage in which the whole body, including the head if some form of breathing tube is used, is wrapped tightly using materials like cling film (saran wrap) and gaffe tape, cloth or latex bandages until the bottom (the mummy) is completely immobilized. Holes are then sometimes made for access to genitals and other areas
MUTUAL MASTURBATION - Where partners manipulate each other's genitals
MWC - Married White Couple.
N
NARCISSISM - One who is stimulated by one's own body
NECK - To embrace, kiss and fondle
NIPPLES - There is a direct nerve path from the nipples to the clitoris and penis. The nipples of both genders become erect because they are made of the same erectile tissue as the clitoris and penis.
NOVICE - The usual term for someone new either to BDSM as a whole or to a particular activity. Very few people come out onto the scene with no experience at all -- most have experimented on themselves or perhaps persuaded vanilla partners to indulge some of their desires -- but nonetheless a good top will take a different approach to a novice bottom than to an experienced one, and for successful negotiation should be honest about their levels of experience.
NS/LD - Non Smoker, Light Drinker.
NUTS - The testicles
NYMPHOMANIAC - Woman with intense preoccupation with sexual desires and inability to achieve an orgasm
O
OFF PREMISE - These are events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party. If members wish to get together sexually they either go to a hotel, home, or else where for pleasure.
OLD DIRT ROAD - Using the anus for intercourse
OLD MAN - One who supports a younger sex partner
ON PREMISE - These are events usually held at house parties or private clubs. Sexual activities are allowed in designated areas or bedrooms. There are also safe rooms where sexual activities are not allowed to take place.
ONE NIGHT STAND - A sexual affair between two or more people who will probably never see each other again
ONE WAY - Will perform only one type of sexual activity
OPEN SWINGING - This kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed.
ORAL INTERCOURSE - A sexual activity whereby the mouth of one person is used in connection with the sexual organs of another person to produce sexual gratification
ORGASM - Find a way to have one and you'll enjoy an explosion of endorphins and oxytocin in the brain as well as the involuntary contraction of genital muscles that produces such a feeling of pleasure. Orgasm brings forth waves and waves of the body's natural painkillers. Fresh blood is circulated in the genitals. The release of stored tension in muscles and emotions helps heal ailments and relieves headache. For men, orgasm can happen without an erection or ejaculation. For women, orgasms can cause ejaculation.
OUT PERSONALS - Worldwide gay personals
OUTCALL - Service where the provider comes to you
P
PANSY - A male homosexual
PARTIES - These are events of group swinging with more than one couple. This is not to be mixed up with orgies. Private rooms can be used, but all swingers are under one roof.
PASSIVE - Partner that does not take the lead, who follows what their partner wants
PEARL DIVER - One who performs oral sex on the penis
PEARL NECKLACE - Ejaculating on neck and chest of your partner
PECKER - The penis
PEDERASTY - Insertion of the penis into the anus
PEEPING TOM - A voyeur
PENIS - The male sex organ consisting of head, shaft and base. The body part that determines a human is male, the penis is important to sexual functioning, reproduction, and elimination. Did you know that the vagina is able to compensate for a small penis?
PERINEUM - The perineum is the span of skin between a woman's genitals and anus, and between a man's scrotum and anus. It is a "hot spot" for both sexes, meaning it's very sensitive and, when stimulated, may produce considerable erotic arousal. Deep penetration of the vagina or the rectum may stimulate nerves in this area.
PERVERT - One who receives sexual gratification from kinky sex acts
PETER - The penis
PHALLUS - The penis
PICKUP - Stranger who is induced to go elsewhere for sex
PISS HARD ON - An erect penis caused by the need to urinate
POCKET POOL - Masturbating through pants pocket
POKE - To engage in sexual intercourse
PORN - Short for pornography, porno is the portrayal of any and all sort of sexual acts and quirky fetishes on any form of visual media.
POWER EXCHANGE - A term used by some people to refer to what happens in a BDSM scene when the bottom agrees to be submissive and/or gives up control to the top.
PRE-CUM - Natural lube which oozes from the penis
PRICK - The penis
PRO - A prostitute
PROSTATE - Glands at base of urethra which eject semen
PSE - "Porn Star Experience" Service that provides the fantasy of being with a porn star. A no holds (holes) bared approach. Very high level of interaction that rivals that of the adult movie industry.
PT - A prick teaser
PUNK - A male prostitute
PUSHOVER - Easily persuaded to engage in sex
PUSHY BOTTOM - Common phrase for a bottom who is over demanding and while purporting to be submissive attempts to control the scene by manipulation, usually to increase the intensity of what's going on or to invite other activities rather than to defy or disobey the top. Obviously the more the dynamic of domination and submission is important to the scene, the more pushiness on the bottom's part could become a problem.
Most tops are on the side of caution when playing with someone new so there is a good possibility with partners who do not know each other well that the bottom will feel frustrated that his or her limit is not being reached. If this is happening it's usually less irritating and disruptive to either wait for a break or call one and then explain what is happening explicitly to the top. The situation can be usually be avoided by patience and honest negotiation.
S A potentially confusing abbreviation. In SM it stands for sadism and so may indicate a sadist. But it can also stand for 'slave' as opposed to master or mistress. When used for slave it may be written s in lower case; when used for sadist it is most likely to be written in upper case. Thankfully the sense is usually clear from the context.
PUSSY - Vagina
Q
QUEEN - An effeminate male homosexual
QUEER - Homosexual
QUICKIE - A very brief sex act
R
RECREATIONAL SWINGER - One who practices swinging as a recreational diversion.
RECTUM - The tube between the colon and the anus
RELEASE - (with /) Orgasm
REMOTE CONTROL VIBRATOR 24 HOUR - A Japanese television show in which a women goes through her normal day wearing a powerful vibrator while a pornographer remotely triggers the device, hoping to cause embarrassing situations.
REVERSE COWGIRL - Sexual intercourse with women on top facing the mans feet
RIM - To use the tongue on the anus
ROD - The penis
ROMAN - Group sex. Orgies. This is where unrestrained multiple sexual activities occur all in one room.
RUBBER - A Condom
RUSSIAN - Sexual contact between breast and penis.
S
S - A potentially confusing abbreviation. In SM it stands for sadism and so may indicate a sadist. But it can also stand for 'slave' as opposed to master or mistress. When used for slave it may be written s in lower case; when used for sadist it is most likely to be written in upper case. Thankfully the sense is usually clear from the context.
S/M - Sadism and Masochism.
SADISM - Sexual stimulation associated with the desire to inflict pain, physical or mental, on another
SADOMASOCHISM - Both sadism and masochism existing in the same person. Today the term 'sadomasochism' usually suggests mutual consensual activity for the purposes of sexual arousal which involves some sort of pain, restraint or domination. However, it covers a wide field with very flexible borders, encompassing all kinds of things that aren't considered normal or conventional sex: indeed, you sometimes think some people use it to cover everything a little unconventional that they personally find a turn-on. Today most people on the BDSM scene who describe themselves as 'sadists' intend to emphasize the enjoyment they obtain from inflicting pain, and those who describe themselves as 'masochists' to emphasize the enjoyment they obtain from enduring it, within certain limits.
SAFE - Male with vasectomy or female with hysterectomy or tubal ligation. (This means that he or she is unable to become pregnant or to impregnate respectively.)
SAFE SEX - Using condoms.
SAFE WORD, STOP WORD - A word or words agreed before a scene begins that a bottom can use to ask the top to ease up or to stop the scene entirely: the non-verbal equivalent, which may be necessary in the event that the bottom is gagged, is a safe signal or stop signal. It is both a safety device and a way of managing consent, insisted on by some players and avoided by others as artificial. When the bottom uses the word, he or she is said to safe out.
SCORE - To achieve sexual intercourse
SCREW - The act of sexual intercourse
SCROTUM - The pouch or sac which contains the testicles
SEA FOOD - A sailor as a sex object
SEMEN - The fluid produced during ejaculation of the male
SENSUAL MASSAGE - Massage intended to stimulate the senses often performed nude or partially disrobed
SHOOT - To achieve orgasm
SIXTY-NINE - Genital oral intercourse performed on each other simultaneously by two partners
SLAVE - Once used more generally for an SM bottom, this is now becoming limited to submissive in a long-term dominant- submissive relationship Submission...The act of or interest in submitting to a someone else's will, within limits, for sexual purposes.
SLOPPY SECONDS - Having sexual intercourse with a woman who already has had one or more men ejaculate inside her vagina.
SMEGMA - White matter which collects under the foreskin of penis
SMUT - Obscenity in speech or writing. Pornography.
SNOWBALLING - This is when a guy is with two girls and jizzes in one of their mouths and then they swap it back and forth. First known public use of the word was in the movie "Clerks" in the movie they claimed it was when a girl gives your own ejaculate back to you with a kiss
SOCIAL - It is an event that is organized in a get-acquainted area of neutral ground, such as a restaurant, or dance hall. These are often followed by a party.
SOFT SWING - Where two couples will agree to watch each other during sexual activities.
SPERM - The fluid that erupts from the penis during ejaculation
SPNG - Spanking
STABLE - A group of prostitutes managed by a pimp
STALLION - A male who possesses a very large penis
STDF - Sexual Transmitted Disease Free.
STRAIGHT - A heterosexual
STRANGER - It's when your hand falls asleep and you jack off; in other words, you cannot feel your hand so it feels like someone else is doing it
STUD - A male who is in great demand as a sex partner
SUBMISSIVE - Passive, wishes to be dominated.
SUCK OFF - To perform oral intercourse on the penis
SUGAR DADDY - A man who keeps a younger person for sexual favors
SWAPPING - This mean the exchanging of partners by two couples.
SWINGER - It is when one or as part of a couple engages in recreational sex.
SWINGER LIFESTYLE - This is a lifestyle where a couple or individual enters into for the purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual activities with a partner or partners other than their own.
SWINGING - This is where two or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual activities with a partner or partners other than their own.
SWISH - A male who behaves in a feminine manner
SWITCH - A person who alternates both roles, either from scene to scene or within a scene, is known as a switch or switch-hitter.
SWITCH HITTER - A bi-sexual
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TEA ROOM - A public men's rest room
TENS UNIT - Transcutaneous Electrical Neural Stimulation unit, one of a number of machines designed for applying electrical pulses to the body at safe levels.
TESTICLES - The testis, which look like oval shaped balls, are actually hundreds of feet of tubes packed tightly together and covered in a strong sheath. In these tubes, sperm are produced along with testosterone, the hormone responsible for sex drive and "maleness" in both sexes as well as male characteristics such as the baritone voice, lot of body hair, sex organs and oversized muscles.
THIRD SEX - Homosexuals
TLC - Tender Loving Care.
TONGUE (VERB) - To perform oral intercourse
TOOL - The male genitals
TOOLBOX - Vagina
TOP - Dominant partner. Top and its compliment bottom are two terms coined in the last two decades to designate the 'agent' and 'patient' roles respectively in an SM scene while avoiding the loadedness of the existing terms like master-slave; they can be used just in relation to the scene itself and don't imply anything about the participants' regular practice, though they are also used to describe people who typically take one role or the other.
TORTURE - In SM, usually used to indicate the use of techniques that produce sustained sensations of continuously variable intensity, some of which may be painful, usually focused on some identifiable body part. May also refer to pleasurable sexual stimulation alternating with deliberate frustration.
TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE - Term occasionally used to describe a full-time (24/7) dom-sub or master/mistress-slave relationship.
TOY - Generally, any item of equipment used in an SM scene; sometimes used more specifically for toys designed to be inserted into bodily orifices such as butt plugs and dildos.
TRADE - A passive male prostitute who caters to homosexuals
TRICK - A sex partner
TURN A TRICK - To take on a sex partner for money
U
URETHA - Duct which carries urine and semen
UROLAGNIA - Sexual pleasure from watching another drink urine
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VACUUM CLEANER - One who applies great suction during oral sex
VAGINA - Orifice of female sex organs
VAGINAL FLUID - Sugar & Spice - Vaginal fluid is secreted from 100s of tiny glands within the walls of the vagina, making the vagina appear as if it's sweating during arousal. The fluid is made up of glucose and fructose
VANILLA - Term used by SM'ers, fetishists and so on to mean 'normal' sex without SM or fetish activities.
VANILLA SEX - Any sex acts that are not kinky
VASECTOMY - Vasectomy is a surgical procedure for sterilizing men. It involves removing a small portion of the vas deferens, a tube inside the penis that connects and carries sperm from the testicles to the urethra, thereby preventing sperm from entering the ejaculate.
VERSATILE - Bi-sexual
VIOLET WANT - A device used in electrical play to discharge radio energy as spectacular sparks onto a bottom: the sensation is similar to the static charges sometimes encountered when walking in certain shoes on certain artificial fibers, but can be varied in intensity.
VIRILITY - The sexual power and capacity of a male
VOY - Voyeurism, someone who Likes to watch.
VOYEUR - One who gains sexual satisfaction from watching others undressing or engage in sexual acts
VOYEURISM - It is observing others who are engaged in sexual activities such as in the act of undressing, or sexual exhibitions.
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WATER SPORTS - This is a form of sexual stimulation where one urinates on other.
WHAM BAM - Rapid and hurried sexual activity
WHAT'S NEW - Where to find updates and links
WIENER - The penis
WORK OFF - To masturbate
WORK UP - To create passion or to be passionate
XYZ
YMMV - "Your Mileage May Vary" Different service provided to different people Depends on the providers mood and chemistry between client and provider
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